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Sunday 8 May 2016
'That Smile On That Picture was Plastic. I Was Beaten To The Altar On My Wedding Day' - Nkiruka, Domestic Violence Survivor
Following the tragic death of Ronke Shonde, more and more women are sharing their own experiences. Below is Nkiruka's survivor story. She shared the post on Instagram.
"The domestic violent story that led to the death of Ronke Bewaija Shonde today broke my heart and took me back to memory lane. Yes that is my ex husband and I, I was just 19 years on that photo. you can see the innocence in my eyes.
We where perfect , very perfect , outside but we fought inside .
You see that smile on that picture was plastic .
I was beaten to the alter on my wedding day .
What happened because I was tired and refused to pack plate .
I swallowed it and matched to the alter .
With tears In my eyes the pastor asked will you take him as your husband for better for worse , till death do you part?? Tears rolled down my eyes but the crowed clapped , screaming tears of joy .
I embarked on the journey of marriage .
At the age of 19 years I endured like a lion .
This fine young man here is an animal .
He beat me up and even beat up my younger once . The day he beat me to coma , he was beating my lifeless body before he was stopped and I was rushed to the hospital .
Do you know what my mother in law told me as I gained consciousness , she said (nkiru, lucky will beat you again o, get ready cause the father beat me too )
I went back in to coma .
He begged and I went back home .
This continued until I decided to face reality .
But the truth is , do you know why we women endure domestic violence ??? 1) financial security . Yes I was scared to leave because I did not know how to begin financially .
2) society .. Yes after bragging to my friends , and society see you as a lucky perfect girl you will want to keep it that way .
3) loneliness ... Yes you are scared if u will find someone better . I was saying who will marry me again , with my boobs like this , stretch marks , milk was still coming out of my boobs as of then , my big tommy etc , I was insecure , so I stayed .
Until one day , I woke and took a strong decision to walk away .
And when I left I left with nothing .
I left empty handed and embarked of this journey .
I kept repeating my name , Nkiruka , Nkiruka , Nkiruka (my future is bigger ) until I reached my destination .
Now I can hit my chest and tell myself I took the right step, even tho I never knew where I was going"
Rashidi Yekini's Mother' Condition: Setting The Records Straight - By Rashidi Mohammed
Rashidi Mohammed, who worked with Rashidi Yekini writes below...
Contrary to the widespread rumor trending on the social media where Rashidi Yekini’s mother Sikiratu Yekini is seen looking like an impoverished woman hawking bread for survival, I have to come out strongly to condemn in strong terms the malicious attempt by the uninformed sets of people who are set to tarnish the good image of late Rashidi Yekini as a prodigal son who never took care of his family especially his mother.
Attached to this mail are the pictures of the 4 flats of 3 bedrooms each with 4 Boys Quarters of 2 rooms each built at the back of the building which was built by Yekini for his mother before he died. Yekini`s mother had always been a petty trader even when her son was alive.
“This background building of Yekini`s mother picture trending online is actually a garage in the 4 flats built by my late client in Ijagbo few kilometer to Offa and about 9 kilometers away from his village, Ira. Even before the demise of Rashidi, the woman had always been in charge of the rent of the building which runs into to several hundreds of thousands of naira without Rashidi interfering.
The Boy`s quarters at the back of the main building as at 2006 was around N48,000.00 each, while each 3 bedroom flat in the main building goes for about N80,000.00 each or more which brought her annual income from rent of the building to about half a million naira despite the fact that Rashidi was always sending pocket money to her and her siblings. Apart from this, Rashidi made sure he empowered his entire sibling by opening one of the best hairdressing saloons for his late sister, late Rofiat, who also died in 2014.
Yekini's mother sells bread to survive in Ira township, Kwara state. Akeem (his younger brother) was not left out of Rashidi`s generosity as he bought 18 seater bus for him among many things I do not want to mention. I wonder where did the writer got the impression that Rashidi ever neglected his mother.
Even after the death of Rashidi, nobody, not even his two daughters have ever interfered on who takes the rent. Not even the ex-wives, on behalf of their respective daughters ever query the mother about the income from the building. I wonder how she is now starving. Two of her children are dead (Rashidi and Rofiat) leaving only Ismaila and Akeem. Ismaila is based in Kaduna with his family. While Hakeem is the only person living with her with his wife. How is she starving? Can an old woman exhaust over half a million on feeding alone in a year?
I am not against any further assistance by any well meaning Nigerian to her, but I owe my late client the duty to set the record straight and because of the negative reactions on social media especially through SaharaReporters, which portray Rashidi as an irresponsible son, who never cared about his family. I am seriously upset about the impression being created by the people who have read the unfortunate story. The gospel and the uncontroverted truth is that Rashidi made adequate provision for his mother. The questions that we should be asking is how are his two daughters faring and who is responsible for their education and upkeep.
My advice on this is to ask Sahara Reporters to investigate before we jump into conclusion.
- Rashidi Mohammed
African Woman Dies In A Hospital In China 3 Weeks After She Was Struck By Strange Ailment
A Ugandan page, Trending Uganda shared these pictures of a woman who reportedly died in a hospital in China three weeks after she fell ill. The hospital said they don't know her identity.
"Whoever knows this lady by the name of Nnaalongo,she was living in Guangzhou in China,she got sick for 3 weeks with a strange disease and now dead. Whoever knows her family, friends & relatives please inform them" they wrote. See more pictures of her below
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